Protect Your Energy!

When Others Use Your Energy to Rise Without Doing the Work

I posted a TikTok about this this week, and it got such a great response, I wanted to go deeper!

n our spiritual journeys, we often speak of love, compassion, and connection. But there is another side to this path that many of us experience, yet rarely talk about: what happens when others are drawn to our light, not to walk beside us, but to feed off our energy without doing the inner work themselves?

You may have felt it — people entering your life who seem lost, stagnant, or energetically heavy. I know have! Relationships, team members, business connections, friendships, it can happen in all of them. They’re drawn to you because your energy feels like peace, hope, or a safe place to be. And as a lightworker, empath, or spiritually awakened soul, your instinct may be to help, to pour into them, to guide them.

But here’s the truth: not everyone who comes to you is ready to heal.

Some are not looking to do the work — they are looking to siphon energy. Consciously or unconsciously, they latch onto your vibration to feel better temporarily, to bypass their own pain, or to elevate without facing their shadows. These are people operating at a lower frequency, a lower vibration energetically, who want the rewards of awakening without going through the fire of transformation.

This is not about judgment. Everyone is on their own path. But it is about discernment.

Why Does This Happen?

Light attracts. When your vibration rises through healing, self-awareness, meditation, and shadow work, you become a beacon. That light naturally draws others — some are fellow spiritual souls, others are simply curious, and then there are those whose souls are starving for what you carry.

They may:

• Seek emotional support constantly without offering giving any back.
• They’ll start using your spiritual language, talking like they’re on the same path — but you can feel it’s not embodied. It’s just words.
• Drain you energetically through excessive venting, chaos, or co-dependency
• Become resentful or manipulative when you set boundaries.

This is a form of spiritual vampirism — not in the mythical sense, but energetically. And if you’re not grounded in your own healing and protected by strong boundaries, it can leave you depleted, confused, or even disconnected from your own source.

You Are Not Responsible for Other People’s Healing

Read that again.

Helping others is wonderful. But sacrificing your peace, energy, and evolution to carry someone else who refuses to walk is not service — it is spiritual self-abandonment. This is not what you came here for.

People must be willing to do their own work: to sit with their wounds, take accountability, and actively heal. No one can spiritually ascend on borrowed energy. Your light can guide, but it cannot do the climbing for them.

What You Can Do

1. Strengthen your energetic boundaries.
Use daily spiritual practices like grounding, shielding, cord-cutting meditations, and intuitive check-ins. Your energy is sacred — treat it that way. Join my membership to gain access to tools I created here.

2. Trust your intuition.
If someone feels off or draining, honour that feeling. Even if their words are spiritual, their energy never lies. We all know someone who talks the talk, but never walks the walk!

3. Don’t rescue — reflect.
Instead of trying to “fix” others, reflect their potential back to them. Offer guidance but let them choose their path.

4. Say no without guilt.
You are not here to be a spiritual battery for those unwilling to charge their own soul. Protecting your energy is an act of love — for you and for them.

5. Surround yourself with those doing the work.
Change your tribe! Find or build a community with those who understand that healing is messy, sacred, and deeply personal. These are your true soul allies.

Final Thought

Your light is powerful. But it is not meant to be dimmed by those who refuse to ignite their own. You did not come this far on your path to be used as a shortcut for someone else’s ascension. Let your presence inspire, not enable. Let your boundaries teach, not punish. And above all, keep choosing you — again and again.

Because when you protect your energy, you protect your purpose.

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